Momma Hooligans | Metamorphosis
Guest post by Kimberly from Growing Up Glad
The first image that comes to mind when I hear the word “metamorphosis” is a butterfly. I think of the transformation it goes through from its stage as a caterpillar. I think about the cocoon and the growth and struggles it has to go through before breaking free. It changes to a new form but its core/ soul remains the same.
Metamorphosis is technically a biological change in form from one stage to the next. It’s something we observe in nature. However, can’t it also be a spiritual or emotional one too? I think so. In that case, life is full of subtle changes or “mini metamorphoses” as we grow from one stage to the next.
Growth often comes after a period of struggles, like the butterfly breaking out of the cocoon. It’s a new beginning or stage. There is an ancient English proverb that says, “just when the caterpillar thinks the world is over, it becomes a butterfly.”
My daughter is naturally an introvert. I have blogged before about ways I have worked with her to build her self-esteem and help her to come out of her shell, photography being one of those ways. Some tools may be helpful to her now and others may just be planting the seed for future growth. As a mother, I want to give her the skills she needs to be comfortable and happy in life, but biologically speaking, some of it can’t be changed, as it is who she is as a person.
So when she’s the only child who won’t go up to accept an award on stage, or she’s the only child who won’t perform at her dance recital, I worry as a mom, “Is that fear restricting her?” “Will it have an impact on her future success?” I have to remind myself that she’s still young and that her shyness is just part of her natural struggle and that one day she will overcome and be stronger from it.
Since transitioning to kindergarten, I have seen tremendous growth in her. It’s not a complete transformation, but it’s progress and forward movement. If you look for the metamorphosis you will see it. Focus on the positivity and you will see the growth. We are ever-evolving as human beings. Nothing is stagnant in life. We have to work hard to create the change we want.
Socrates said, “The secret to change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new.”